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I like to share stories with others. I share stories with friends, stories in the messages that I present at Agape Spiritual Center and well…just about any time I’m in a  prolonged conversation with someone; a story may come to mind and just BEG to shared!

I share stories about my life – the lessons I’ve learned – the crazy things I’ve done in the past – the dreams I have for the future. But I think my favorite stories are the ones that make me laugh – and hopefully, others too… once they’ve heard the story.

Today however, I have been thinking about the stories that perhaps I tell repeatedly… and how that story can change immensely without my realizing it – until an “aha moment” occurs … as it did on Christmas Day evening during an after-dinner conversation.

What is an “aha moment” you say? It’s a moment of clarity, the aha moment is a defining moment where a person gains real wisdom – wisdom that can be used to change ones life!

So, let’s get back to MY aha moment! My husband Jim and I were blessed to share Christmas Day Evening with our friends (John and Maggie). . . and after dinner, we somehow ended up in a rather lengthy story telling session. Jim and I talked about how we met and our adventures prior to moving to South Dakota and as we did so, a plethora of other stories came to mind and were also shared. Maggie and John had an opportunity to share a few of their stories as well and at some point that night, I just sat in awe at the realization of how interesting, different and amazing each of our lives have been and still ARE! It was such a blessing!

However, that isn’t the main point of this message. So I’ll back up a little bit in order to create a bit more clarity.

Jim and I were telling the story of how we moved into our present home. Our home is a comfortable 92-year-old house with wood floors and a claw-foot bathtub … my two prerequisites for purchasing a home.  Prior to moving here, we lived in a small trailer in the North section of town. It was comfortable, and it was ours. We paid a minimal fee to rent the lot space and life was simple. . . we had no debt, and a home that I could clean from top to bottom in a period of 3 to 4 hours! SIMPLE! 🙂

Well, here’s where the “story” comes in. . .

One day, the trailer court manager called my husband in to his office and informed him that our dog Luke (a yellow lab/golden retriever mix) was 2 inches over the “height limit” for dogs at the park! He basically informed Jim that we had 30 days to get rid of Luke, or MOVE OUT!

Jim went on to explain to our friends that there were several other “park rules” – such as, no barking, no unattended animals left in the yard, and most certainly – no leaving animal droppings in the yards of others or the communal park area.  And of course, we had often observed numerous homes where these other rules were not being followed … but for some strange reason, “out of the blue“, this manager felt that our dog being 2 inches above the height limit was just unacceptable and that he could not (and would not) allow any exceptions to this rule – even though we paid our rent early every month, our dog was NEVER outside unless we were with him and we picked up his droppings ALWAYS!

  • I have since come to understand that “out of the blue” is just another name for God working in Divine Timing and Divine Order! 🙂

It just didn’t make sense to us that we would be evicted from the park for a 2 inch height infraction! But there was no reasoning or bargaining allowed. And so we moved into our home with the wood floors and the claw-foot bathtub!

We judged this “story” as a negative experience for a long time – and quite honestly, I can still feel some of the remaining anger, angst and righteous indignation well up from within when I tell this story… even though I NOW look at this experience as something positive and definitely recognize it as a GIFT that has unfolded in my life!

  • And so it is today, that I am realizing to a greater extent how energy can attach itself not only to “things”, but to my thoughts, words, experiences . . .   and most specifically, to MY STORIES!

Isn’t that interesting?! I AM realizing in this moment, that I can release any of that remaining “ickiness” around the story of finding our new home! It serves no positive purpose to hold onto the” ickiness” part of the story! I had unknowingly been HOLDING ONTO that story! Why?!

Our home was purchased at the exact right time, at an awesome price and in the perfect location! We are so close to EVERYTHING! Close enough to town; but not too close! Close enough to hills and hiking areas; but not too far to keep us from enjoying them. The list goes on!And in addition to all of these other positives about our home; it is also zoned as “commercial” and therefore, can house my husband’s business as well! And so, I am grateful that my dog was “too tall” and that the manager was a rule follower (at least when it came to US)!

Our being “forced to” move…was a GIFT! And the TRUTH of the matter is that we weren’t forced at all! We were moving toward our highest good, which I believe is meant to be for each and every one of us! Our job then, is to recognize those moments and heed the call!

The same person who co-created with Jim and I, the impetus to move into our own home – came back (in a round-about way) into my life several years later in the form of a move from one Spiritual Community to my current one. And this move also had the initial appearance of being unwanted and most definitely; uncomfortable!

Yet again, the initial appearance could not have been further from The Truth! Why?! Because I truly believe that my Spirit ‘called for’ that experience LONG before it actually came into expression through him, myself and several others! And it truly WAS and IS what I wanted … It just took a while for me to REALIZE that I had spent several years prior to that experience, trying to fit a square peg in a round hole! 

At that time in my life, I hadn’t been following MY true Spiritual Path – I’d been attempting to conform my path to that of others! I didn’t realize for quite some time, that I’d taken a different branch on the path a couple of years before that time!

  • As I was sharing these stories on Christmas night – I came fully into the realization of what this one man’s presence had  represented in MY life for ME! And this felt so astoundingly Loving and Beautiful!
  • I realized that (in our Oneness) his soul must love mine so much, that it agreed to express as the appearance of something “unwanted or unfair” in order to assist in gently nudging me forward to something better (for ME)! Well, “pushing” might be a more accurate term in this case; I WILL admit to being quite stubborn sometimes! 🙂
  • I do believe though, that he was an integral part of the expression of a gift and a blessing BOTH times!
  • The impetus for me to begin pecking my way out of the comfortable egg-shell that I had outgrown.

The egg-shell reference is best explained by Reverend Michael Beckwith, who tells a story about how a chick pecks its way out of its shell at just the right time and in just the right manner.

In this story, he shares the importance of that process being allowed to unfold in the manner in which it does … long and tedious; appearing almost painful in the labor it takes for the chick to peck its way out.

But just like a butterfly will be unable to fly and will die if the liquid is not expressed from the lungs via the squeezing process as it makes its way out of the cocoon – the same is true for the chick. In addition, where a chick is concerned – it matures to a certain point and then can no longer rid itself of its waste nor obtain oxygen through the pores of the egg-shell. Therefore, it must begin pecking a hole through its shell in order to breathe air and get out of that shell in order to not inhale its own waste products!

  • So this is the analogy that I AM remembering today.
  • Both times that a move or change appeared to be “forced upon me“, I believe that it was because I had outgrown my egg-shell! I just required a little push in order to begin pecking my way toward my highest and best!

And I Thank God, that I chose to begin the pecking out of my shell process, rather than suffocating or figuratively “drowning in my own crap“! 🙂 Is that a great metaphor, or what?! 🙂

So what did I learn from today’s musings? I believe that I learned that it’s fine to tell my stories. It’s one way that we share our life lessons and experiences.

I CAN however, stop now and then and NOTICE what type of energy I am attaching to my stories – and I can CHOOSE to release that, which no longer serves me. . .  sort of like an egg-shell that no longer serves as a proper home!

Blessings Upon Your Day!

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